Best Riding Positions for Women’s Pleasure – 5 Must-Try Styles for Women

Let’s Talk: Best Riding Positions for Women’s Pleasure Start With Confidence

Best Riding Positions for Women’s Pleasure are not just about physical technique—they’re a reflection of confidence, connection, and curiosity. Let me tell you something from the heart: I know how intimidating it can be to take the lead during intimacy. I’ve been there. Many of the women I work with feel the same way at first. But once we understand what our bodies love, pleasure becomes empowering.

I’m Mrs. Olawunmi Esan, a trained psychologist and sex therapist. I specialize in helping women and couples connect, enjoy intimacy, and embrace sexual pleasure without guilt or fear. This blog is for you if you want to explore riding positions that truly prioritize female pleasure.

Why the Best Riding Positions for Women’s Pleasure Matter Emotionally

As women, our pleasure often begins in the mind. The freedom to take control in the bedroom can be deeply healing—and exciting. Riding positions put us in charge, helping us:

• Regulate rhythm, depth, and stimulation

• Explore both clitoral and G-spot pleasure zones

• Feel emotionally connected to our partners

And let’s not forget the psychological benefit: feeling desirable and confident in your body.

How the Body Responds: Pleasure Zones & Riding Positions

To understand the best riding positions for women’s pleasure, let’s briefly explore the key pleasure spots:

Each riding position stimulates different zones. Learning to identify what your body enjoys is key.

Top 5 Best Riding Positions for Women’s Pleasure (With Examples)

Here are five riding positions I often recommend to my clients—tested, trusted, and totally customizable:

1. Standard Cowgirl (Face-to-Face)

Sit upright on your partner, knees or feet planted on the bed.
Why it works: Intimate, allows kissing and eye contact. Great balance of control and connection.
Pleasure focus: Clitoral + emotional intimacy

2. Reverse Cowgirl (Back to Him)

Sit facing his feet. Use your hands to balance on his legs or knees.
Why it works: More G-spot stimulation, and you control the depth of penetration.
Pleasure focus: Visual variety for him, deep G-spot access for you.

3. Frog Style (Deep Squat, Knees Wide)

Squat over him with your knees bent and feet on the bed.
Why it works: You set the pace. It allows deep thrusts and better grinding.
Pleasure focus: Intense clitoral + vaginal stimulation.

4. Grinding Cowgirl (Slow & Steady)

Stay low and gently grind your pelvis in circles.
Why it works: Reduces fatigue. It’s a slow, sensual build-up with lots of external stimulation.
Pleasure focus: Clitoral, perfect for long sessions.

5. Modified Cowgirl (Lean Forward)

Lean your chest forward onto your partner while riding.
Why it works: Easier on knees, shifts angle for deeper sensation.
Pleasure focus: G-spot + comfort.

Simple Enhancements to the Best Riding Positions for Women’s Pleasure

Want to turn a good experience into a great one? Try these:

• Place a pillow under his hips for better angles.

• Use lubrication generously—it’s a game-changer!

• Play with tempo—grind, bounce, or sway depending on your mood.

• Add a toy for clitoral stimulation while riding.

• Communicate—“That feels amazing,” goes a long way.

Spice Things Up Without Changing Position

Even the best riding positions can benefit from small surprises:

• Sensual Talk – Whisper what you feel or desire

• Eye Contact – Powerful and grounding

• Light Spanking or Breast Play – Only if you’re comfortable

• Mirrors or Mood Lighting – Visuals add excitement

Common Struggles and How to Overcome Them

You’re not alone if you’ve faced these:

Prepare Physically & Mentally for Riding

Your body and mind need to feel ready for intimacy. Here’s how to prepare:

• Stretch your hips and thighs daily

• Do Kegels for pelvic floor strength

• Have a warm bath to relax

• Center yourself emotionally—relaxation increases pleasure

Real-Life Success Story from a Client

One of my clients, Ada, a 40-year-old mother of two, told me:

“I used to feel shy initiating sex, but when I learned how to ride with confidence, I felt powerful. My husband noticed the difference immediately. We laugh more now, and I actually look forward to our intimate time.”

These changes don’t just improve sex—they improve connection and communication too.

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FAQs About the Best Riding Positions for Women’s Pleasure

1. Can beginners try these riding positions?
Yes! Start with standard or modified cowgirl for comfort and balance.

2. What if my knees hurt?
Use pillows or focus on grinding instead of squatting.

3. How can I overcome shyness in riding?
Start in the dark or play with music. Confidence builds with time and practice.

4. Are toys necessary for female pleasure while riding?
Not necessary, but a vibrator can enhance clitoral stimulation.

5. Can these positions help with orgasms?
Absolutely. Especially grinding and frog style, which stimulate the clitoris and G-spot.

6. Is it normal to laugh or feel silly while riding?
Yes! Laughter shows comfort and connection. Enjoy the process.

Final Thoughts from Mrs. Esan

Ladies, your pleasure matters. The best riding positions for women’s pleasure aren’t just about your partner’s satisfaction—they’re about discovering the incredible power and beauty of your own body.

If you’re ready to explore even deeper intimacy, I invite you to join my exclusive “Ride Like a Pro Reloaded” course designed for Nigerian women. It’s where confidence, technique, and pleasure meet.

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With love,

Mrs. Olawunmi Esan
Psychologist & Certified Sex Therapist